5 Things You Can Start Doing Today To Improve Your Relationship

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Sometimes in relationships, conflicts will arise. When you or your partner is stressed, you might find yourself taking it out on each other. You might be a little more on edge and more argumentative. If you are going through a period of grief, the same can happen, or you might seem a bit more distant. You might go through a period of not feeling attracted to your partner because of medical reason or emotional distress, and that is okay. The important thing to remember is that there are always small changes you can make that can have a big impact on the health of your relationship.

If you have noticed you and your partner might be a little more distant as of late or if you feel like things have been a little rocky lately, here are five small things to keep in mind that can help improve your relationship. They are all very simple!

1. Ask yourself why you are upset

Some arguments are fine and normal, however, they can also signal that something might be wrong within the relationship on a deeper level. By asking yourself why you are upset, you are sorting your thoughts so that you don’t make an emotionally impulsive decision and say or do something you don’t mean, and it also forces you to look at whether the problem is a small one, or actually one that is very big and might even make you question if this relationship is right for you.

Some arguments are fine and normal, however, they can also signal that something might be wrong within the relationship on a deeper level. By asking yourself why you are upset, you are sorting your thoughts so that you don’t make an emotionally impulsive decision and say or do something you don’t mean, and it also forces you to look at whether the problem is a small one, or actually one that is very big and might even make you question if this relationship is right for you.

2. Listen when your partner speaks

Maybe you’re someone who likes the be the center of attention, but when your partner comes to you with a problem, you need to be all ears. Communication is vital in a relationship, and making your partner feel like they are truly heard can make them feel special and loved. You two are in a relationship together, and that means you should also be able to lean on each other. Be sure to really listen when he or she comes to you, as it can help solve problems the both of you are having, allow for more closeness and bonding and make them feel loved.

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3. Set aside time for friends

Your partner means a whole lot to you, but that doesn’t mean you should neglect your friends. It’s good to have outside interests and friends other than just your partner and your relationship. You two can have a romantic date night, but then you might want to go out for some wine or go to a Zumba class with your girlfriends. Maybe your man wants to go have a few cold brewskis with the boys. Friends make up a part of our identity and social circle, and we should still get to see them and make time for them. Spending time apart can help make the relationship stronger and keep you from suffocating each other.

4. Make time for doing the things you love

Your hobbies are part of your identity, and when you feel like you are giving up a part of yourself in your relationship, you might start to resent your partner. You might not even be aware that you’re feeling this way, but it might manifest as more arguments and you being a bit more edgy than normal. You might have pent up frustration and anger that you once loved art but feel like you have neglected it since being with your partner. Maybe you used to play a sport but gave it up to spend more time with your partner and not you’re missing it, and maybe even subconsciously blaming it on them. Making time for the things we enjoy doing not only brings us joy but also gives us time to be the unique individuals we are. It’s always good, and very healthy, to hold onto your own identity while in a relationship.

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5. Tell them you love them

We often get so comfortable with the people around us and having them by our side that we forget to tell them how much they mean to us. This can sometimes happen in relationships, especially with people who have been together for a while. However, taking the time to remind your partner that you love them, or doing a small gesture to show them you love them, can really make them feel special and keep the fire alive.

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